Hi and thank you for visiting the Blog! In this first post I would like to talk about Women as living beings, created by God for a purpose. I dedicate this first post to all women: you are the beauty of creation and have purpose. Lets set aside the circumstances for a moment and look at God's work of art. You will see why it is so important in a moment.
Please read posts and be blessed, as we share thoughts, experiences and words of encouragement.
March 29th, 2010
Today's quote:
God did not create woman from man's head,
that he should command her,
nor from his feet,
that she should be his slave,
but rather from his side,
that she should be near his heart.
Hebrew proverb
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March 26th, 2010
This post is about an emotional recovery and my experience of going through it. It is a journey where God leads you to the place he wants you to be at, if you just let Him.
When the partners of verbal abusers recognize the abuse and take the necessary steps to ensure that they are no longer subject to it, they are already in the process of recovery. Recovery is a process of healing and reorientation that does not follow a fixed schedule and takes different amounts of time for different people.
Emotional recovery is a very serious process and takes time, devotion and it needs to be taken seriously and worked hard on and no one can do it for you. Without being emotionally healthy you can not accomplish the greater things you desire. It is so crucial to functioning in everyday life. In my personal victorious recovery I have learned step by step what worked and I learned that I could not move to the next level without recovering certain issues first. What I mean is, for example, after I rid myself of a horrific relationship I just wanted to be happy! Now! After a long time being unhappy and afflicted, I wanted good things to happen to me immediately. I started to be frustrated on top of the load of hurt and depression. This is how human nature is after its been hurt for a very long time. The only way out of this bondage of emotional destruction, unfortunate consequences of an abusive relationship, is through the Word of God, prayer and total trust in God's power.
With the power and grip of the Holy Spirit I made a decision to leave my marriage and I escaped. I promised to myself that my children will grow up in a healthy and a happy home. I took myself and them out of devastation and horror.
But even after I was out of the immediate abuse I was left with broken feelings, depression, low self-worth, anger, defensiveness and the list goes on. I did not know of God's love and will so I turned to medication and counseling. This did provide a little bit of emotional support, but not what I need. Thankfully after several months my new friend, a believer, told me about "the good news." I learned there is a purpose for me; an amazing love of a Father and fulfilling Word of God. I surrendered my life to Him. I began daily prayer and digging through the Bible I found treasures of hope. I found the truth about my identity.
One morning I went to my cabinet, reached to take another pill and the Lord told me, "You need it no more. You have no more depression! Go and live your days in happiness!" I can not describe the feeling of joy and victory I had after I heard His still calm voice.
In Joshua 1:5 we are promised comfort and companionship when the Lord says"I will not leave you, nor forsake you." As soon as you truly receive the lord in your heart, He is with you and for you. You might doubt and not feel it in the beginning but the seed is planted. You can be sure, as I was from that moment. God was working! The Bible says that if he started His work, He will finish it. (Phil. 1:6) The process of His wonderful work has begun in you already.
The next battle on my list was called low self-worth. Through prayer and scripture, God clearly tells us that we are created in His own Image and He loved us so much that sent His only Son. (John 3:16) We are significant to Him! I looked in the mirror one day and I saw a princess, Father's beloved daughter. He looks at me the same way I look at my children. How do you look at your children? With awe and love of their undescribable strength? Psalm 139 says, " You are fearfully and wonderfully made." How can I possible have a low self-worth after discovering this truth? That negative feeling dissolved as fog and never bothered me again.
After I was free from depression and feelings of low self-worth, the Lord revealed the generational curse in my family that I had to break. Everything that happens to us is connected to something or someone, family or generation. I trust the Lord and I follow Him in all His ways. Sometimes it is very painful and does not make sense. God knows and He has purpose for every action, because He can see the bigger picture. Yes, you must go travel that rocky road of healing and recovery in order to feel happy again and live life to the fullest.
And so the Lord went on with His works in me, setting me free from every negative emotion and feeling, one by one. He released them all, one at a time. He has a list for you and He knows exactly what He needs to work on if only you will let Him. He works in exactly the right order. In every person it might be different, but you can see the picture of how God works.
Trapped in emotional distress, you are blocked from your children. It becomes a huge wall between you and them. God's power enables you to destroy that wall and enables you to see and communicate with your children in a different way even! I can not describe how much better and deeper the relationship with my children became, no matter how small they are, they feel and you feel. The Lord is for you, interceding on your behalf to The Father and wipes it all as white as snow, to prepare you for something greater He has in prepared for your future.
I believe many women would not leave their horrors because they know it is an emotional mountain to overcome and seems impossible to move. It is very hard indeed because the Devil does not want you to know what God has for you - a life free from any emotional and physical pain and distress, so the devil will try hard to stop you. Women prefer to stay and let their children witness and receive what God did not intend for them. We can not see ahead clearly, see the will of the Father being affected by the emotional distress.
Steps to successful recovery:
1. Recognize the issue - I am being abused etc.
2. Admit the problem - the hardest part - by admitting, you know there are changes that need to be made and now you want changes to happen and ready to act.
3. Take action - read the Bible, research what God has to say about you and what he promised you in His Word; go to Church; connect with Bible study.
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March 19th, 2010
The purpose of this Blog is to reach out and touch the lives of women who are hurt by abusive relationships. I am here to share what God has revealed to me through my heart. This is a place for You to speak out, share your viewpoint, help others, ask questions, big or small. This is a help-page where you can run to for answers or questions, encouragement and support.
Always know, You are created for nothing less than love.
“The Lord God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and man became a living being.” (Gen. 2:7 NIV)
Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is like him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to come over the man, and he slept. God took one of his ribs and closed the flesh at that place. Then the Lord God made the rib He had taken from the man into a woman and brought her to the man.” (Gen. 2:18-23 NIV)
Man and a Woman are the Lord's masterpieces and the Woman is His finishing touch; the crown of the creation with a crucial role to play, a sustainer beside the man, who bears the image of God in a feminine way. She is to be loved and cherished, to give love and to share the responsibility of stewardship of this earth created for herself and man.
My wonderful friend, amazing woman of God, Kim, blessed me with the book called "Captivating" by John and Stasi Eldredge, where I found amazing description about the Woman and her role: "A woman is a vast wonder to be enjoyed" (p.41); "God endows Woman with certain qualities that are essential to relationship, qualities that speak of God. She is inviting. She is vulnerable. She is tender. She embodies mercy. She is also fierce and fiercely devoted, intimate and alluring." (p.30)
Lastly, what I feel on my heart is how high our Creator values us! Nothing and no one should make us feel less than what we are created for; in His own image, to love and to be loved, with an amazing purpose to fulfill.